hailstorm permanently destroyed these gorgeous hostas.
(And my roof too! But I was more upset about the hostas.)
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If you were to visit my backyard today, the only spots of garden color you would see would be a few of those common orange daylilies and a hanging fuchsia basket (the traditional Mother's Day gift from my husband).
Where the perennial border was, the ground is almost bare. Half of the once lush lawn is now dirt, the other half includes lots of weeds. The little herb garden is overrun with ladybells.
The front garden isn't much better. My half dozen hardy Canadian shrub roses still survive, as well as my sturdy lavender irises, a couple of hollyhocks, a few Stargazer lilies and the ubiquitous ladybells.
I used to be a gardener - a good gardener. I studied for and earned a Master Gardener certificate. I gardened (with work in between) from 6 in the morning until the street lights came on at night. When I finally came indoors, I had a tower of gardening books to read at my bedside.
I wrote a garden column for the Bismarck Tribune. I did the Bismarck-Mandan Garden Club's newsletter. Dan and I hosted a garden party every August. I was a test gardener for Jackson and Perkins.
So what happened? Age, time and circumstances, I suppose. Our old American elm tree (which I do love) was huge when we moved here 27 years ago; now it is ginormous and kills every plant that tries to grow under its canopy, including the grass. Although its absence would totally change the micro climate of my backyard, I do not wish it gone, especially since Dutch elm disease has claimed so many beautiful old e;m trees in North Dakota. (And our tree must be one of the largest in Bismarck.)
About eight years ago, I was anemic for an entire summer, and therefore was so weak I did not lift a finger in the garden. I think that was the beginning of the decline. Job losses meant no more money for gardening. Perennials I had planted did not last as long as I thought they would. Finally, I developed carpal tunnel syndrome and my knees have gone wonky on me. This year, I didn't even buy annuals for the pots on my decks.
I am writing this blog so that these posted pictures can remind me of what I once had. They're a testament to what I have accomplished. And, doing this gives me closure. I have finally accepted that the gardening phase of my life is over.
I had lots of pleasure and lots of agony too. I have read so many times about gardeners who love to get their hands in the soil. That was never me. I don't like to get dirt under my fingernails (probably as a result of my enforced potato picking days). I did not enjoy planting, or weeding. I nearly "died" the day I planted 100 tulip bulbs. No, I only enjoyed the results.
For a while, until I went organic, I fought insects with a vengeance. I drowned slugs in beer by the thousands. And I lost so many plants to hail, that staple of a North Dakota summer. (This year, when I have exactly one plant, we have not had hail once.)
But one evening, when I was gardening in the front yard, a passerby told me that she thought that my house and garden came straight out of a fairy tale. That one comment made all the blood, sweat and tears worth it. (Blood from rose thorns, sweat - obviously, and tears after the hail storms.)
So I present these pictures for your enjoyment - and mine.

This is the arbor over the sidewalk leading to the house. The rose you see climbing the arbor is William Baffin, a sturdy, extremely robust Canadian shrub. On the other side of the arbor, not shown, there is a Henry Kelsey climber, also a Canadian shrub. There are also cosmos, daisies and I don't know what all.









My dear little faun, nearly hidden by the perennials. I can't believe I'm not remembering what the purple flowers are. I used to know the names of almost all garden flowers, and certainly the ones I grew. I'm thinking they might be a type of campanula.




18 comments:
You are full of surprizes. I had no idea you were a master gardener.
It would be a chore there in ND with the weather situation as it is. That just goes to show you were a great gardener. Your garden was beyond beautiful!Sorry you have lost the desire. It'd do your heart good to have a little green growing in a pot....I know how you love the natural world.
:-)
Gemma - Rearding losing my desire: It's not that. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak - and the pocketbook empty.
You are still reaping a bountiful garden of blossoms from what you previously sowed. It is evident that this was planned and planted with love. Perennials are so great - each year they just keep on giving.
I can envision the day when I will not have the energy to garden. I have already cut back on what I do. This year, I refused to buy any annuals that required dead-heading - or to have pots at a distance from the house that required watering.
Values shift - and as we age conserving energy trumps beauty - for me anyway. Besides there are so many other ways to find and experience beauty besides in our own garden.
Once upon a time, i got lost in here for quite a while! Many beautiful spots to linger...
~blessings~
Julie, you have been a wonderful gardener and the picture journey through it was very moving... but we have also found that age takes its toll... and I can see that the work associated with keeping it the way you want it to be would make it stressful for you. I think you have done the right thing... I hate seeing the garden untidy... and this year I hacked a lot back, and then - ow - paid someone to do what we no longer can. It hurt. But the payoff has been a wonderful winter where I have felt light and open, with no garden battles, and a reminder that my next house will not rely on my own garden to offer me pleasing views or tranquility.
:)
I have been unable to look after my garden for the last few years due to artheitis in my hip and it has grown into a garden for wildlife, doing it's own thing very well thank you very much. I've got thistles as tall as young trees and new trees that have arrived on their own and chosen to flourish and all this on the edge of the sea in the north of Scotland. I have now had the duff hip replaced and will soon be fit enough to garden again, but I think I will not tidy too much, I'd rather have the birds etc. I woiuld have loved to have seen you garden in it's hey-day.
Re your tuplips...when we moved into our new house, we planted over 100 tulip bulbs. The squirrels ate them all! We still haven't gotten over the loss of it and have planted hostas and suflowers instead.
To every thing there is a season, and your "season" as a gardener was a long and productive one!!!
I LOVE the photos you have here...what charming small nooks and eye-catching colors! I love the blue trim with the flowing pink flowers! I'm so glad you showed us these.
You do not live in an area where gardening is easy...I am finding the "lasagna" (layered) garden has been easier than any thing I have tried...think about it!
Wow - you amaze me again and again. What lovely gardens. I agree, the time comes when the work is not always what we can do - but you do have the memories and the photos.
Such a pretty garden, I love the deckchairs under the apple tree and your lower deck is really inviting too. It's a shame that you can't manage to do it any more, I can't imagine not being able to mess about among my flowers - I'm an earth under the finger nails type:)
Beautiful memories! It was like a storybook garden! But alas, time does move on and it's good to know one's limits. I have yet to get the gardening bug (no pun intended) My mother-in-law does all the gardening and I enjoy the benefits. I'm afraid I'm like you and can't get excited about dirt under the nails either..or finding worms..or being sweaty.
Things now are as they should be even if we don't understand why. Time will give us answers. Until then, you get my hugs..
julie, what a lovely garden you had. it must be so bittersweet for you to look back on these photos. so thank you for sharing them! My garden will be magical one day, ive made a start... but theres so much more to do!
Leanne x
Is there no end to your talents!! I was so amazed reading this post. I never knew this side of you before. You certainly did some beautiful things in your garden. I don't have a green thumb at all so I'm always envious of those who do. Gorgeous photos....thank you for sharing this side of you. You are indeed a woman of many talents.
Julie i did indeed enjoy the tour, i can imagine all the blood, sweat & tears you have poured into that beautiful garden! You remind me so of my grandmother, she too loved her garden so & didn't give up till her knees gave in. Then she would sit in her sun porch & atch my mother gardening instead. Those photos and memories are so precious, i an tell you hold them close to your heart. remember what a beautiful job you have done. time now to move on to other precious things x x
I love this garden is so lovely and peaceful, all the little corners that you could hide in, is what we hoping to do as well, my cats would love your garden to sleep and dose the day away.
What beautiful pictures. I really enjoyed the tour. Thank you very much.
This is a faerytale. Beautiful. Blessings.
OMG!!! Julie! I'm am totally stoked. What a wonderland you have created. Please.
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