I had known about the Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill for a long time. I first read about them in Armistad Maupin's "Tales of the City". That book, plus a non-fiction book on the cottages of San Francisco (many of which are located just off the hundreds of steep steps that go up Telegraph and other hills), made me fall in love with San Francisco before I ever went there.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
BOOK REVIEWS
I had known about the Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill for a long time. I first read about them in Armistad Maupin's "Tales of the City". That book, plus a non-fiction book on the cottages of San Francisco (many of which are located just off the hundreds of steep steps that go up Telegraph and other hills), made me fall in love with San Francisco before I ever went there.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
A LETTER TO MY BOOK CLUB
After our latest book club meeting on Thursday evening, I feel compelled to offer my thoughts on what it means to be a member of a book club.
In my opinion, a person who joins a book club has contracted to an unsigned but tacit agreement that he/she is willing to read and discuss one book a month.
While our club is a greatly enjoyed social club, it is primarily a book club.
There are certifiable excuses for not reading the book. However, most excuses are flimsy at best and get really old after a time. They are merely indicative of the low priority you give to book club. Your incredibly busy social life is not an excuse and frankly does not impress me. I may not have a life that is as busy, splendid or essential to the community as you think yours is, but I still have one and my time is just as precious and valuable to me as yours is to you.
Telling us you played video games instead of reading the book is an insult. Telling us that you always fall asleep after reading a few pages in bed reflects poor planning on your part. Telling us that you read another book instead of the book club book is a slap in the face. If you are only capable of reading one book a month, read the frickin' book club book first.
I repeat, there are valid excuses for not reading the book. However, M., while your life has been really difficult in the past couple of years, and it is understandable that you may not have the time, spirit or energy to read the book these days, you've always had some kind of excuse in the 17 years I've known you. In those same years, I was raising a child and had a full-time job.
You didn't even bother to buy the book? You didn't get it from the library quickly enough? You couldn't find anyone to borrow it from? You don't trust/know how to order from amazon.com used (but you use a computer at work all day long, V.)? Get real - all of you have more money than I do.
When you do not read the book, you may think it only impacts yourself, but this is not true. We dutiful readers are always left to carry the discussion. We are made to feel bad that we may reveal a plot twist or - heavens - the ending. In a book club as small as ours (because we are "too old and set in our ways" to invite new members), having members who aren't that faithful about attending either, we have had as few as two people who've actually read the book. Is this really the way to operate?
I was terribly hurt by the people who threw me under the bus on Thursday evening. J., we've been talking for months that something had to be done. To quote you, "It is disrespectful to other members to not read the book." You promised time after time that you were going to bring up the matter, and that B. N. was in agreement with us.
But on Thursday night you both left me twisting in the wind. Instead of the three of us providing a united front, you let the others think the idea for the discussion was all MINE. You let me take the heat, absorb the snotty remarks (K.: "I don't have to read the book if I don't want to!") and receive the silly rejoinders. (B.W., just because there was not much discussion about a particular book is no reason not to read the next book.)
Do you know the definition of being "thrown under the bus", also known as hypovehicularization? It means betraying a friend, sacrificing her, making her a scapegoat or a fall guy, letting her take the entire blame. Don't argue with me that I wasn't thrown under any bus. I felt the push on my back, have the broken bones and squashed organs, and still have the tire marks on me.
Regarding the phrase "to throw someone under the bus, The Word Detective says in his blog that the key to the phrase "really lies in the element of utter betrayal, the sudden, brutal sacrifice of a stalwart and loyal teammate for a temporary and often minor advantage."
I'm tired of being known as the Book Nazi just because I ask members to read the book. I'm taking your advice and finding a book club in which the members do just that.
Since I will be absent henceforth, you will now have two people who always read the book, and four who habitually don't. I understand that some members have now said they will "try harder" to read the book. Fat chance. That won't last long. You still refuse to take new members? The club - as a book club - is doomed.
Enjoy your social club, CRS, I'm all over it.
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
SUMMER AFTERNOON, SUMMER AFTERNOON
Summer's here at long last! Wait a second, this post should have been written around June 12, not August 12. But we've hardly had summer here at all. Yesterday was only the second day of the entire summer that it has reached 90 degrees or more. Not that I like really blistering temps, but we could have used quite a lot more sun, a bit less rain and fewer cool temps and clouds.
Finally, I can trot out the paintings I've saved - the ones that are titled "Summer Afternoon" or include that phrase in the title. I published a "Summer Afternoon" post last year or the year before, but still found plenty of images for this one. Obviously, artists and viewers alike are enamored by summer afternoons.
Both posts were inspired by the Henry James quote "Summer Afternoon - Summer Afternoon . . . the most beautiful words in the English language." And they were also inspired by the wonderful Peter Skager painting "Summer Afternoon on Skagen Beach."
Of all the paintings posted here, this one is probably closest to my personal experience - summer on a more rural, much less showy scale. We weren't upper crust, far from it. We were middle class in Grandma's family, lower middle class in Mom's. Whether living in my grandma's house, my parents' house or now, my own home, I've always inhabited small houses with big back yards. At first long expanses of green, the sprinkler-less lawns of my childhood would be burned to a crisp by August. But we still horsed around with the dogs, made hobo burgers over a fire pit, set off fireworks (after the Fourth, too), squirted squirt guns, watched for shooting stars at night, caught grasshoppers, picked wildflowers, played "Starlight Moonlight", walked the creosote-soaked tracks, rode our bikes to the store for pop (one for Mom too).
Saturday, August 8, 2009
MY ONCE UPON A TIME GARDEN
This is the arbor over the sidewalk leading to the house. The rose you see climbing the arbor is William Baffin, a sturdy, extremely robust Canadian shrub. On the other side of the arbor, not shown, there is a Henry Kelsey climber, also a Canadian shrub. There are also cosmos, daisies and I don't know what all.
The corner by the driveway, featuring a Morden rose ("Morden Pink", I think - yet another Canadian shrub). There are also some snapdragons, coral bells and zinnias.
This is the area to the left of my front steps. I've tried a lot of plant combinations in this space, but nothing I ever planted has seemed quite right. In this incarnation there are hollyhocks, ostrich ferns, some taller pink flowers, impatiens, perhaps an edging of white alyssum. (I never had any luck with it.) And a self-sown Queen Anne's lace (out of place, but nice~).
The lower deck behind the garage. Dan, who is definitely not a carpenter, did a good job with building it, on one of the hottest days of 1988. I also had him put up that lattice to give us a little privacy from the neighbors' driveway.
Another view of the lower deck. My nephew Nick made the folding table in shop class, and I painted it and the bench to match our house trim. I had my herbs here, close to the kitchen, as well as flowering plants.
Part of my perennial garden, with its lovely thatched bird feeder. I recognize delphiniums, artemesia, lilies, purple prairie coneflowers and physostegia (I think?).
The grapevine on the fence does a wonderful job of hiding the driveway. As you can see there is a gap in the rear where I had not yet been able to find a good tall plant. My aim for this perennial border was to have tall plants in the rear, medium-size plants in the middle and short plants in front.
Our upper and lower decks are separated by a walkway which continues out toward the lawn. Even then, only shade plants grew here. I later replaced the flimsy metal arbor with a nice sturdy arched one.
My dear little faun, nearly hidden by the perennials. I can't believe I'm not remembering what the purple flowers are. I used to know the names of almost all garden flowers, and certainly the ones I grew. I'm thinking they might be a type of campanula.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAN
To the young Kristen, Dan was very often "Silly Daddy!" For many years, Dan babysat her on Saturdays so I could go out and do "my thing". When she was a teen, he taught her to drive, as I was too nervous to try. He found her good safe cars for her first car, at 15, and again in her 20s when she needed transportation out East.
This photo was taken in Washington, DC, when we drove Kristen out to attend college at Georgetown University. I bawled when we left, but he can't claim his eyes weren't wet as well. And he isn't ashamed to cry during movies either. He really is sentimental - I love that in him.
NO MUSTACHE - AND NO SHIRT!
Hey, it's usually very hot here on August 5 (not today though). Here he is one scorching birthday evening with the traditional family cake - angel food with butter cream frosting.
He wouldn't appreciate that I posted a photo of him with no shirt, but then again he'll never see it as he doesn't read my blog, much less ever go on the computer. (Don't tell, Kristen!)
Dan has to work until 9 p.m. tonight so there'll be no special dinner, or even a cake. But I'll raise a glass of wine to his rum and Coke after he gets home, and wish a "Very Happy Birthday" to this funny, loving, gentle, kind, good man.
Dark hair or grey, long hair or short, mustache or no mustache, I love you!
Saturday, August 1, 2009
HAPPY LAMMAS/LUGHNASADH PART II
Looking at this Lughnasadh Blessings banner above makes me think of fall. Certainly we are seeing these first fruits of the harvest at the Farmers Markets all over town. And this morning I saw my first yellow leaf.
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Our local weather forecaster says it's because the jet stream is dipping below us instead of rising up into Canada. He says there are hot days ahead. But I repeat, it has been an unusual summer, one that has seen:
Take a look at that list for a moment. Am I really that airy fairy? And are there so many people in the world like me? I suppose there are as many people searching for websites on serial killers, alien abductions, global warming, the tanking of the economy, genocide, war, human trafficking, etc. etc. They just aren't finding them on my blog. And I hope that the people who innocently land on this blog like this airy fairy place of beautiful words, art and pictures, lines from poems, memories of childhood and the realm of imagination.
The painting shown at the top of this blog is digital art by Nadi Spencer. To see how she created it, visit her website at http://www.nadispencer.com/. Nadi used the painting for her line of recipe greeting cards that she sells in her Etsy shop at http://www.Cafepress.com/NadiSpencer/6466808 (scroll down to Nadi's Table).
Does anyone live near Three Rivers, CA? Nadi's having an open house at her studio today, with a real Lammas "first fruits" luncheon of potato soup, blueberry scones with Irish whisky spread and blueberry ice tea. Can't go? Too bad, I can't go either. But, if you go to yet another of her sites, Nadi's Table (her cooking blog) you can find the recipe for her blueberry scones and spread: http://www.nadistable.com/ for Thursday, July 23.
Happy Lammas/Lughnasadh to you!